Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption Blog

Adoption vs. Abortion – What Will I Feel?

Adoption vs. Abortion - What Will I Feel?   For many women, parenting isn’t an option when it comes to an unplanned pregnancy. These women are faced with a huge decision: whether to choose abortion or adoption placement. Neither choice is easy, and there are major considerations for both. If you are going through a difficult pregnancy decision yourself or you’re helping someone who is, it’s important to understand the effects both choices can have. The Effects of Choosing Adoption People often call adoption the “loving choice” for women who do not feel parenting is the right option for them. However, loving choices aren’t always easy choices. There are some important things you need to consider when choosing adoption. Adoption Grief It’s normal for birth mothers to go through stages...

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How to Deal With Common Pregnancy Fears

How to Deal With Common Pregnancy Fears   It’s natural to feel a little scared when you become pregnant - and even more so when you weren’t expecting it. However, pregnancy doesn’t have to be scary. Your journey can teach you a lot about yourself, and it can provide a better life for your baby and the adoptive family you choose. When you become pregnant, you might start feeling overwhelmed by unknowns and potential problems. How can I afford a pregnancy? How can I provide for myself? How can I convince my family and friends that this is what’s right for me? At Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption, we’ve dealt with all these problems and more, and we’re here to help you through the process of dealing with them, too. Our goal is to empower you with information so you can make healthy...

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Tips for Being Yourself In Your Adoption Profile

Tips for Being Yourself In Your Adoption Profile   One of the most common pieces of advice for couples looking to adopt is to “be yourselves.” We know how tough this can be. When you’re trying to adopt, the temptation is to make your family look as appealing as possible so you have the best “chance.” But there’s a catch: if you try to make your adoption profile appealing to everyone, chances are you won’t stand out to anyone.Instead of trying to make your profile appeal to everybody, the key is to embrace who you are as a family and focus on that. Here are a few tips to help you be yourself as you create your profile: Tip 1: Be Open and Honest Many adopting couples think that their adoption profile is to give the birth mother or birth family information. This is true - but it’s not...

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Tips for Bonding With Your Adopted Baby

Tips for Bonding With Your Adopted Baby   In the past, many people believed that newborn babies were “blank slates” that didn’t have any personalities or preferences. Today, we know better. Babies form clear preferences for people and environments - and that means bonding is vital. For birth parents, the bonding process starts before the baby is even born. However, for adoptive parents, you need to take extra time to ensure you and your baby bond. Here are some tips to jump start the bonding process for adoptive parents: Skin Contact One of the best ways to create a bond with your newborn is to keep them close. Skin-to-skin contact isn’t just beneficial immediately after birth, it helps your baby bond with you throughout  infancy. Your baby will be exposed to your scent and...

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Important Questions to Ask Your Adoption Agency

Important Questions to Ask Your Adoption Agency   When you’re starting the adoption process, one of the biggest decisions you’ll make is which agency to work with. No two adoption agencies are the same, so it’s important for you to choose an agency you are comfortable with. One way to ensure an agency’s views and goals are aligned with your own is to ask them questions before you begin working together. Here are a few common questions adoptive parents often ask - feel free to use this list when visiting us!   Important Questions for Adoption Agencies What types of adoptions do you do? There are many kinds of adoption, including infant adoption, adoption out of foster care, and international adoptions. Some agencies handle all of these while others specialize in a certain area....

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Tips for Starting an Adoption Search and Reunion

Tips for Starting an Adoption Search and Reunion   Adult adoptees often find themselves considering searching for their biological parents and relatives. While feelings about adoption can vary from curiosity to sadness to anger, adult adoptees often say that searching for or finding their biological relations can bring a sense of closure. Unfortunately, the adoption search and reunion process isn’t always an easy one. That’s why our search and reunion specialists at Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption are here - to help make your journey easier. Keep reading to see the best tips and advice for starting your own adoption search.   Where to Start For many, the idea of hunting down biological family seems overwhelming. Where do you begin, and how do you know if you’re making...

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Tips for Handling Your Adoption Wait During the Holidays

Tips for Handling Your Adoption Wait During the Holidays   Adoption waiting periods are never easy, but we understand that many waiting families face particular challenges during the holiday season. Being around relatives you don’t see often and facing their questions and curiosity can be hard - as can be seeing your friends and family celebrating with their children. We hope that these tips and ideas can make your holiday season a little less stressful while you wait.   Stay Busy, But Not Overwhelmed One of the best ways to keep your mind off your pending adoption is to keep yourself busy. Fortunately, the holiday season is one of the easiest times to busy yourself. Between decorating, making food, attending events, shopping, visiting, and traveling from place to place, it...

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The Benefits of Adoption Counseling for Children & Families

The Benefits of Adoption Counseling for Children & Families   November is National Adoption Month, and we here at Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption are dedicated to helping adopted children and adoptive families in every way we can. One of the biggest ways we help kids and families is through our Connect Counseling Center, which provides adoption counseling services to anyone who needs them. Not sure whether you or your family would benefit from adoption counseling? Here are a few of the ways counseling can help adopted children and adoptive families: How Counseling Can Help Your Family Help Navigating the Adoption Process When you’re just starting your adoption journey, it can be tough to know who to trust and where to turn for help. Adoption counselors don’t just help kids -...

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Domestic versus International Adoption

Domestic versus International Adoption   Every adoption journey starts differently, but they often have many decisions and considerations in common. One of the first decisions many couples need to make is whether they wish to pursue a domestic or an international adoption. Unfortunately, there are many misconceptions about both domestic and international adoptions that can lead people to make poor choices or feel lost in the process. To help you know what's best for your adoption journey, we've put together this short guide comparing domestic and international adoption. Cost One frequent misconception about international adoption is that it's an inexpensive alternative to a domestic adoption. In fact, many international adoptions cost just as much or more than a domestic adoption...

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When is it Time to Consider Adoption Counseling?

When is it Time to Consider Adoption Counseling?   Every parent knows children go through hard times as they grow up. Knowing when your child’s difficulties are due to the challenges of growing older and when they are due to the challenges of adoption can be tricky. Adoption counseling can be a great asset for adopted children and their families. However, you need to decide when it’s time to pursue counseling. Here are a few ways to know when that time has come. Do All Adopted Children Need Counseling? Adoption can weigh heavily on children’s minds. As parents, it is natural to want to help our children through difficult times. That can often cause parents to seek counseling when their kids encounter personal and emotional problems. However, not all adopted children need therapy....

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