Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption Blog

The Facts About Adoption vs Abortion

The Facts About Adoption vs Abortion   Unexpected pregnancies are never easy. However, if you’re in a situation where you know you won’t be able to raise your child, you’re left with an even harder choice - to make an adoption plan or undergo an abortion procedure. This is an extremely difficult choice - potentially one of the hardest you will ever make. If you’re pregnant and not sure what to do, keep reading to get a better understanding of the facts and some perspective on making the right choice for yourself and your child. Why Women Choose Abortion Over Adoption It’s no secret that abortions are much more common in the United States than adoptions are. The CDC estimates that there are more than 600,000 abortions performed every year. At the same time, there are less than 15,000...

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How to Make Adoption in Oklahoma More Affordable

How to Make Adoption in Oklahoma More Affordable   One of the most common questions we hear from couples thinking about adopting is, “Why is the process so expensive?” It’s true that there are many costs and expenses involved with adopting. However, those costs shouldn’t stand between you and your dream family. There are many ways to make adoption more affordable, especially if you’re willing to think outside the box. Resources to Help You Afford an Adoption Saving and Budgeting One of the best ways to make adoption more affordable is to simply save up for it, like you would for any other major expense. You can even use your bank or special online tools to set a savings goal and create a budget that will allow you to meet it. The key to saving for an adoption is to be serious and...

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Common Myths and Misconceptions about Adoption Placement

Common Myths and Misconceptions about Adoption Placement   When you’re facing an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy, you have many difficult decisions to make. Many women consider placing their unborn child for adoption as a solution. Yet, there are many misconceptions they have about the placement process. To help you make healthy and loving choices for yourself and your child, we’ve compiled some of these common myths along with the truth about them. Common Concerns about Adoption Placement The Placement Process is Too Complicated One common concern women have about adoption is that the process is difficult, time consuming, or stressful. After all, many women thinking about adoption do so because they don’t have the time or resources to parent. Going through a lengthy adoption...

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Overcoming Difficulties in an Open Adoption Relationship

Overcoming Difficulties in an Open Adoption Relationship   Open adoptions are becoming more popular with both birth parents and adoptive families. They offer many advantages to everyone involved in the adoption, and in many cases, they result in a strong and positive family bond. However, some open adoption relationships can result in strain and stress. If you have encountered difficulty in your open adoption, you should know how to handle it and overcome it. Common Problems in Open Adoptions While open adoptions are usually a positive experience for both the birth and adoptive parents, there can be some difficulties that place strain on the relationship. These difficulties can range from the major to the mundane, but they always need to be handled correctly to avoid making problems...

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HOPE Groups for Adoptive Parents

HOPE Groups for Adoptive Parents   Adoption is a journey with several paths, and many adoptive parents use therapy to help them navigate the multiple twists and turns. At Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption (DPA), we are committed to providing adoption/foster-competent therapy to individuals, couples, families and children through our Connect Counseling Center. Now, we’re happy to announce a new counseling initiative available to adoptive and foster families - HOPE Groups. What Are HOPE Groups? HOPE Groups is our newest counseling and therapy program for foster and adoptive families and their children. Through HOPE Groups, families will be able to come together and share the triumphs and difficulties of foster care and adoption, and they will be given an opportunity to grow and learn...

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Over a Century of Help in Oklahoma

Over a Century of Help in Oklahoma   Sunday, January 15, marked the 33rd Sanctity of Human Life Sunday. On the third Sunday of January each year, our nation celebrates the sacred nature of life and renews the commitment to protect and promote the lives of those most vulnerable. However, we’ve been working toward the protection of life and family for far more than 33 years. This year marks our 117th year of serving Oklahomans as a pro-life advocate and adoption agency. Learn more about Deaconess and how you can join us in protecting the sanctity of all lives. Our History Deaconess Pregnancy and Adoption began as the Oklahoma Rescue Home on December 31, 1900 in what was then known as Indian Territory. It wasn’t until 1907 that Oklahoma gained statehood, by which point our “little...

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When and How Should You Talk About Adoption with Your Children?

When and How Should You Talk About Adoption with Your Children?   It’s one of the most common questions people have about adoption: “How do I explain it to my kids?” Whether you’re an adoptive parent, a birth parent who relinquished a child, or a friend or family member with children, adoption is never an easy subject to discuss with kids. Here are a few of our tips for approaching this topic in a sensitive and age-appropriate manner for all children. Young Children Even though toddlers and young children don’t know what it really means to be adopted, it’s important to begin the discussion of adoption early to pave the way for later conversations. At a young age, explaining adoption to children is all about telling a story. Indeed, telling children their “adoption story” is a great...

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The Benefits of Post-Adoption Support for Birth Parents

The Benefits of Post-Adoption Support for Birth Parents   Placing a child for adoption is never an easy decision. However, it’s much more difficult when you choose to do it alone. Many women, when placing their child for adoption, work through lawyers or facilitators instead of adoption agencies. While you can have a good experience with a lawyer, adoption agencies have at least one major benefit for birthmothers: post-adoption support. Post-adoption counseling and support can help birth parents in many ways. Whether you are struggling with negative feelings, confused about how to approach your relationship with the adoptive family, or simply want someone impartial to talk to, adoption counseling can help. Keep reading to learn more. Common Difficulties for Birth Mothers After...

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Considerations for Adopting a Child Later in Life

Considerations for Adopting a Child Later in Life   It’s no secret that parents, on average, are older today than they used to be. Many people are waiting until later in life to get married and start a family. However, biological parents aren’t the only ones getting older. It’s also becoming increasingly common for people to adopt later in life, often past the age of 40 or even 50. If you’re thinking about adopting a child later in life...Congratulations! Adopting is always a courageous and compassionate decision, no matter when you decide to undertake it. However, as an older parent you’ll have to consider some extra details that younger parents don’t often face. Read on to learn more about adopting as an older parent and see how you can help the process go smoothly. Why People...

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How to Unseal Closed Adoption Records in Oklahoma

How to Unseal Closed Adoption Records in Oklahoma   For many adoptees, the search for their birth families can take many years and be filled with twists and turns. One of the biggest obstacles to an adoption reunion journey is the possibility of closed or sealed adoption records. It can be very hard to unseal adoption records in Oklahoma, but it is possible. Learn about the process so you can continue your adoption journey. What Are Closed Adoption Records? In most states, adoption records are sealed by a court order once the adoption is finalized. This is done to protect both the adoptees and the birth and adoptive family from public scrutiny and interference. However, it is possible for adoptees and families to access these sealed records by following the proper procedure. In...

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