Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption Blog

When and How Should You Talk About Adoption with Your Children?

When and How Should You Talk About Adoption with Your Children?   It’s one of the most common questions people have about adoption: “How do I explain it to my kids?” Whether you’re an adoptive parent, a birth parent who relinquished a child, or a friend or family member with children, adoption is never an easy subject to discuss with kids. Here are a few of our tips for approaching this...

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The Benefits of Post-Adoption Support for Birth Parents

The Benefits of Post-Adoption Support for Birth Parents   Placing a child for adoption is never an easy decision. However, it’s much more difficult when you choose to do it alone. Many women, when placing their child for adoption, work through lawyers or facilitators instead of adoption agencies. While you can have a good experience with a lawyer, adoption agencies have at least one major...

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Considerations for Adopting a Child Later in Life

Considerations for Adopting a Child Later in Life   It’s no secret that parents, on average, are older today than they used to be. Many people are waiting until later in life to get married and start a family. However, biological parents aren’t the only ones getting older. It’s also becoming increasingly common for people to adopt later in life, often past the age of 40 or even 50. If...

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How to Unseal Closed Adoption Records in Oklahoma

How to Unseal Closed Adoption Records in Oklahoma   For many adoptees, the search for their birth families can take many years and be filled with twists and turns. One of the biggest obstacles to an adoption reunion journey is the possibility of closed or sealed adoption records. It can be very hard to unseal adoption records in Oklahoma, but it is possible. Learn about the process so you...

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How to Help an Older Child Adjust to Adoption

How to Help an Older Child Adjust to Adoption   Adopting an older child is a very different experience than adopting an infant. One of the biggest distinctions between the two is the process of adjustment for older children. Unlike infants, it can take lots of time and effort for an adopted older child to see you as his or her family. However, there are some things you can do to help....

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Balancing Work and Family After Adoption

Balancing Work and Family After Adoption   One of the biggest challenges of adopting a child is adjusting to parenthood. This can be especially hard for couples who both work. Balancing work and family life is difficult for every working couple, but adoptive parents have their own particular challenges as well. Learn some of the biggest challenges for working adoptive parents and what you...

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Preparing for your Adoption Reunion.

Preparing for your Adoption Reunion   Many adopted children in closed adoptions have dreams of meeting their birth parents, and many birth parents dream of meeting the children they released for adoption as well. However, adoption reunions aren’t always what we imagine they’ll be. If you’re seeking a reunion with your birth parents or birth child, here are a few suggestions to help you on...

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How to Talk to Your Family About Your Adoption Plans

How to Talk to Your Family About Your Adoption Plans   Adoption can be a difficult decision to pursue - but it can be even harder to explain it to your loved ones. This is true whether you’re a birth mother considering placing your child for adoption or a family desiring to create your family through adoption. Talking to your family and friends can be stressful; however, if you approach it...

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How to Handle a Failed Adoption

How to Handle a Failed Adoption   There are many common fears among couples seeking to create or expand their family through adoption. One of the biggest fears is “failed” adoptions - an adoption that starts but, for one reason or another, doesn’t finish. Failed adoptions happen for many reasons, but they’re never easy to deal with. That said, there are a few ways to make a failed adoption...

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What To Do While You Wait for your Adoption

What To Do While You Wait for your Adoption   One of the most difficult things about adopting a child can be all the waiting involved. You might be waiting to be matched. You might be enduring a long waiting period before your adoption finalizes. Perhaps you’re even waiting for your child to be born. It can be hard to get through your own adoption waiting period. But there are some things...

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