Many couples find themselves dealing with unexpected and often unexplained infertility.
In today’s modern medicine, many avenues are available to assist couples with fertility treatments. For those who have walked the road of in vitro fertilization (IVF) and have grown your family, there may be additional embryos remaining that you are unsure what to do with. Your fertility clinic or a medical provider may have explained some options for the remaining embryos. You may not be aware that there is another option: you can donate your embryos to be adopted by another couple.
Throughout our 120 years of experience in adoption, many lessons have been learned about best practices, how to provide the highest level of support, and what questions and issues can arise lifelong for everyone impacted by adoption. With that knowledge and experience, we have launched our embryo donation program.
As a donor family, you have the right to determine the family you feel is best for the embryo(s) you are placing and can decide if you would like to have ongoing contact after placement. We will help guide and support you through the decisions and legal process that follows if you determine this is the best option for you. All of our adoptive families are Christians, have shown evidence of a stable marriage and home life, and have been deemed medically able to carry a baby through pregnancy.
Our goal is to provide you with information about all your options in a safe and nonjudgmental environment. You will never be pressured by us to make a decision. If you would like to talk to one of our staff about this program, please contact us today at the link below.
We know you will have many questions about the process. Check out our step-by-step guide below to help with some of the basics. We would be happy to meet with you to talk about the process and your options at any time.
- First Meeting: We will meet you in person and walk through the process.
- Paperwork: Complete embryo donation paperwork documents.
- Choose: Select from our waiting applicants the family you feel is best.
- Match Meeting: Meet the adoptive family you have chosen (if you desire).
- Legal Transfer: Court paperwork filed to transfer custody of embryos to adoptive family.
- Support: Know that we will walk with you lifelong as you process and need support.
Meet our Embryo Program Coordinator
Catherine Howe, CCLS
Frequently Asked Questions
What are your requirements for adoptive families?
- Married, man and wife, for a minimum of two years if it is the first marriage for both and for five years if either has been married previously
- Minimum 21 years of age and no older than 45 at the time of application
- Meet medical criteria for embryo transfer
- All prospective adoptive parents must be actively involved in a Christ-centered church of their choosing
- Must have passed a home study that included extensive interviews, background checks, references, and verifications
What is the cost?
There is no cost to you through DPA. The only cost you will incur is the cryopreservation storage fee up until the point of legal transfer. At that time, the adoptive family will take over payment of the storage fee for the embryo(s) legally transferred.
Do you place with couples from out-of-state?
Yes, we do. You will be able to preference if you want a family within Oklahoma or outside.
What can we preference about the adoptive family?
You are in charge of this decision and can share whatever is most important to you. We will show you families that best line up with your preferences.
What is an open adoption?
We love this question! Open adoption means that there is some form of contact or relationship between the donor and adoptive family after placement. Adoptions can range from closed to semi-open to fully open.
We believe openness is in the best interest of all parties as it gives children access to information about their heritage and donor family and allows for more people that love the child to be part of their lives. It is not co-parenting and does not mean that the donor family has daily contact. How the child views their biological heritage and family will impact their view of who they are and openness allows for a more holistic view of that. It also allows for ongoing connection between biological siblings. Significant research has been done showing the positive impact of openness on all involved.
Below is a brief description of the range of options available.
- A closed or confidential adoption means there is no exchange of identifying information and you do not meet the donor family. Closed adoptions are very rare and are facilitated at the request of the donor family only.
- A semi-open adoption means you stay connected with your donor family with the agency as a mediator. This arrangement involves the exchange of pictures, emails or letters, and often involves visits.
- A fully open adoption involves ongoing contact and visits with the donor family without the agency as a mediator. This type of relationship usually evolves over time, typically beginning a semi-open adoption.