Unexpected pregnancies are never easy. However, if you’re in a situation where you know you won’t be able to raise your child, you’re left with an even harder choice – to make an adoption plan or undergo an abortion procedure.
This is an extremely difficult choice – potentially one of the hardest you will ever make. If you’re pregnant and not sure what to do, keep reading to get a better understanding of the facts and some perspective on making the right choice for yourself and your child.
Why Women Choose Abortion Over Adoption
It’s no secret that abortions are much more common in the United States than adoptions are. The CDC estimates that there are more than 600,000 abortions performed every year. At the same time, there are less than 15,000 adoptions of relinquished infants.
There are many reasons why women choose this path. Some of the most common include:
- A belief that abortion is less expensive than placing a child for adoption.
- Worries about other people finding out about the pregnancy.
- A feeling that abortion is a quicker and less emotionally involved solution for an unplanned pregnancy.
Unfortunately, these reasons are misconceptions. Abortion is not a quick and simple “fix” for a pregnancy and making an adoption plan can be every bit as viable.
The Truth About Abortion and Adoption
Many women think abortion is a simpler and less difficult solution to an unplanned pregnancy, but this isn’t the case. In truth, abortion has many long-lasting side effects and doesn’t always work out as expected.
One of the most frequent misconceptions about abortion is that the cost is less than the cost of adoption. In truth, however, placing your child for adoption is always less expensive. This is because the costs of pregnancy and giving birth are taken care of by the adoptive family, while the costs of abortion are almost always your own responsibility. Some insurance plans do cover some of the costs of abortion, but this isn’t something you can always rely on.
Another reason women often get abortions is because they see it as more confidential than placing a child for adoption. Many women don’t want to admit they became pregnant unexpectedly, and they see abortion as a “quick fix” that will allow them to keep their situation a secret. However, adoptions may also able be performed confidentially with the help of an experienced adoption agency. Registering as a confidential patient at the hospital is just one of the ways to maintain secrecy.
Finally, some women think abortion is preferable to adoption because they think it’s a less emotional decision. In truth, however, many women experience significant mental and emotional side effects after an abortion. It’s also possible for women to have regrets about a decision to place a child for adoption, but in general these women are more satisfied with their choice because they know their child has a better life due to their decision. Further, open adoption allows continued connection with the child.
Unlike abortion, many women don’t take much time to consider adoption as a possibility. However, modern adoptions are very different from how they are portrayed in the media and how they were years ago. Today’s adoption process places the birth mother in control and makes it possible for them to plan the type of adoption they desire.
In addition, it’s important to remember that adoption services are completely free for the birth mother. In many cases, we can even help you secure additional assistance with living expenses and medical needs.
Finally, remember that adoption gives you one thing abortion never can – the peace of mind that your baby will have a life with a loving family you chose.
If you want to learn more about your pregnancy options and what choices are available to you, contact us today at Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption. As Oklahoma’s oldest and most experienced adoption agency, we can help you through every step of the adoption process. Call 405-949-4200 today, or visit us on Facebook to see stories, pictures and videos about our waiting families, birth mothers who chose to make an adoption plan for their child, and people loved and raised by an adoptive family.