How to Deal With Common Pregnancy Fears


It’s natural to feel a little scared when you become pregnant – and even more so when you weren’t expecting it. However, pregnancy doesn’t have to be scary. Your journey can teach you a lot about yourself, and it can provide a better life for your baby and the adoptive family you choose.

When you become pregnant, you might start feeling overwhelmed by unknowns and potential problems. How can I afford a pregnancy? How can I provide for myself? How can I convince my family and friends that this is what’s right for me?

At Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption, we’ve dealt with all these problems and more, and we’re here to help you through the process of dealing with them, too. Our goal is to empower you with information so you can make healthy choices for both yourself and your baby.

With that in mind, here are a few of the most common questions and concerns birth mothers talk to us about, as well as our advice for how to deal with and overcome them.

How Do I Handle Being Pregnant Right Now?

Many people share with us fears of telling their family or friends about their pregnancy. Women also share that they are often unsure how their partner will respond to learning that he will be a father. Some have experienced trauma or domestic violence and fear that their pregnancy will put themselves and their baby in danger.

We are here to listen to you and support you, no matter the circumstances you find yourself in. Our team serves the whole state and is more than willing to have you at our office or drive to your area and meet you in a place that feels safe to you.

What if I’m not ready to be a mom?

One of the toughest parts of handling an unplanned pregnancy is that it never feels like the “right time.” Maybe you’re in school and have a full schedule. Maybe you’re struggling financially or working on advancing your career. Maybe you just had a baby and you’re still recovering. Whatever the case, it can be hard handling a pregnancy on top of everything else in your life.

At Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption, we offer pregnancy and adoption counseling for birth mothers to help you through your pregnancy and to give you support and guidance. No pregnancy is easy, but you can always look for help and support from people who care.

How Can I Afford Medical Care?

There’s no getting around it: Pregnancy is expensive. According to data from, the average cost of childbirth in Oklahoma is more than $6,000 when you deliver vaginally and more than $8,000 when delivering by C-section. Costs can be even higher when you don’t have insurance or have a plan with exclusions or network costs.

We can help you examine your resources for medical care, including helping you apply for SoonerCare or other insurance, if you qualify, and finding support and resources for you regarding prenatal care and post-birth care.

What If I Get Sick or Hurt?

It’s natural to have some fear of pregnancy. You’ve likely heard rumors and stories about women who experienced strange or rare side effects during pregnancy and delivery, and now those stories are rushing around inside your head. That’s why it’s important for you to get accurate and detailed pregnancy information from a trusted source.

At Deaconess, we have several pregnancy experts that can help answer all your questions about pregnancy, delivery, and more. We want you to be as comfortable as possible with every part of your pregnancy. We know how hard it can be to go through it alone and we want to walk with you.

Get Answers, Support, and More Today

Pregnancy might seem scary, but it doesn’t have to be. With the right help and guidance, you can get your questions answered and feel confident in your decisions.

If you want to learn more or talk to someone about your options, call Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption today at (405) 949-4200. You can also reach out to us online by visiting our Facebook page, or just stop by our office to talk to someone today.