Kerry & Hayley

Father

Occupation: Pastor
Education: Bachelor of Science in Mathematics
Religion: Christian/Baptist
Age: 31
Interest: Playing sports, working out, fishing and hunting, yard work

Mother

Occupation: Secretary
Education: Associate’s Degree in Interdisciplinary Studies
Religion: Christian/Baptist
Age: 30
Interest: Repurposing furniture, singing, decorating, travel

 

Couple

Married: 10 Years
Biological Children: 0
Adopted Children: 0
Pets: Dog

Dear Birthmother,

Thank you for considering what our family agrees to be one of the noblest and most loving sacrifices a parent can make: adoption. We imagine this must be one of the hardest things you have ever decided to do in your life. So, first off, we would like to say thank you for courageously taking this step. We pray that God will give complete peace about your decision.

Let us introduce ourselves. Our names are Kerry and Hayley. We do not have any children. We tried adopting a child through DHS foster care and ended up getting our hearts broken. However, we do have a wonderful, yellow Labrador named Hogan. He is eight years old. He is a very friendly dog who stays outside most of the time. When we had our foster child, Hogan was very gentle with him and enjoyed every moment of it. Hayley and I live in a small town (less than 1,200 residents) in southwest Oklahoma. We love the safe and close-knit community and have an amazing church family as well. I am the pastor of the church while my wife works as a secretary at a regional high school. My wife enjoys having her summers off so that she can be more involved with the church. She also looks forward to spending quality time with our future child during her summers off. With both of our schedules being fairly flexible, we look forward to giving our future child the attention and love he/she so deserves.

My wife and I met while attending college and six months after dating, we were engaged! We have been married almost ten years now (May 2018). My wife and I truly enjoy one another. We enjoy going to the movies together, going on vacation (especially cruises), and exercising together at the local gym. We also enjoy keeping up with our niece and nephews and their activities. We cannot wait to have our own children to chase around! We also have separate interests. I love watching and playing sports as well as fishing and hunting.  Hayley loves music and anything that is artsy/crafty. Our greatest activity that we are involved in is our church. We absolutely love serving with some of the best people we know. I cannot express enough how amazing our church family is. They have been such a strong, support system for us in this journey toward adoption during the highs and the lows. They are faithfully praying for our future child and his/her birthmother.

Adoption has been something we have talked about even before we married. It is very dear to our hearts for a couple of reasons. One reason is that Hayley’s father is adopted. It has been a wonderful experience for him and we want to continue that wonderful blessing in our own family. The second reason we are interested in adoption is that it displays a beautiful picture of how we have been adopted into the family of God through Jesus Christ. The Bible tells us that though we were once strangers to God, we are now His sons and daughters in Christ! That truth continues to resonate deeply in our hearts.

A couple of years ago, Hayley and I went through the most bittersweet moment of our lives. We took home a wonderful 9-month-old boy in foster care only to lose him 6 months later. He went back to his birthmother. In our short time with our foster child, Drake, we learned how incredible it is to be parents. Drake drew a love out of us that we had never imagined. Though that journey did not end as we had hoped, it helped us understand a piece of our lives that we had been missing all along…we want to be parents. Specifically, we want to be parents through adoption.

Should you bless us with adopting your child, one thing you can be confident about is we will unconditionally love your child. In our immediate family and in our extended family and friends, your child will grow up in a place of security, peace, and joy. Your child will be raised in a Christian atmosphere that puts God’s perfect truth at the forefront of every decision. Family meals will be prayed over to give thanks. Conversations and playtime will be filled with love and laughter. We will strive with your child to become everything God has blessed him/her to be. There will be expectations and boundaries set for your child, but not without love and encouragement. We will teach your child to pray, love others, forgive, and work hard for the glory of God as well as many other virtues. Last, but not least, we will teach your child to love and honor you as his/her birthmother. Your child will know and be reminded constantly of your courageous and selfless decision. Should you desire to still have a relationship with your child, we are completely open to that. We eagerly await to discuss and plan that process with you. Whatever the case, you can be confident that every time we as a family bow our heads and close our eyes, we will pray and give thanks for you.

We hope this letter gives you a great understanding about who we are. We are in constant prayer about this decision and confidently wait for God to bless our family with the presence of you and your child. Thank you for taking the time to read our heartfelt letter to you.

With love,

Kerry & Hayley